Temple of the Dark Moon

After chinese new year, comes one of the most celebrated event of the year… Valentine’s Day~ yippee~ yahoo~~ yay~~ . no, im not anywhere near excited about it. and no, definitely not because i don have someone to celebrate it with. i just feel sad and sorry for the wallets of millions if not billions of ppl round the world, forking out sums just because some bozo decided that feb 14 is the day u must appreciate ur partnet ‘more’. some how i just feel its a little too human don u think? we humans like to make everyday events into once in a year thing. perhaps its to add to the point that there is something different from our mundane everyday life. i mean, if i was to argue, cant u appreciate ur partner everyday? Perhaps u can do it, but then that will make everday a little Valentine’s Day. And being as human as we are, we naturally tend not to appreciate it as much when it happens everday (just my opinion, feedbacks are welcomed). take food for example, we get to dine in fine restaurants once in a while, savouring delicacies that our everyday wallet will not be able to afford. but if we have these delicacies everyday, it will no longer be a ‘delicacy’. if shark fin’s soup can be ur everyday life soup, would u be jumping up and down when u get to drink it at a restaurant? (applies only to not so extreme animal lovers, as for extreme animal lovers, no offence. i do not support eating shark fin’s soup too. its just to make an example and i cant think of any other examples right now that does not involve animals being eaten.) so i wont say its a commercial gimmick or what so ever, i find it facinating actually. how ppl go to extra lengths on that day for their partners.

why in the world would i find it facinating u may ask, well, lets just say i’m also learning to look from all points of view. i don understand the concept of ‘love’ so i naturally will not understand whats the big huu haa all about but i understand that for ppl who believe and trust in it, it must be something important. so i will accept it as it is. its facinating because 2 totally strangers, well after to get to know each other then they would not be strangers, but then they are to a certain extent because the time u spent with them is well, ‘limited’. LIMITED?! i’ve spent everday and everynight of my life with my bf/gf!! u may say. well, yes. u do spend alot of time with them, but have ever realized that spending time when u are still in the bf/gf relationship, u tend to put up with alot of things? don u realize that u tend to control urself? if u say no, its of course very hard for me to believe, but it u are convinced of it, then it is as u say and i’ll agree with you. the thing i see it is that we are trying to be our best behaviour so as to get what we wish to keep. no?

when i say limited, i mean ur communication is a far cry from ur family’s (only applies if your family is closely knit or something like that. does not work if u don communicate with ur family). and that is why i say they are technically ’strangers’. in our family, we spend our entire lives with them and being around ur family even though when u are not talking u can observe all those subtle habits that may or may not be irritating/ admirable and so on and so forth. and those are greatest part of human communication. it is these subtle habits that we will display when we start to live together with our partners. but it is these subtle habits/attitudes that we may never get to see when we are still in that early stage of relationship. do not you agree?

ive read a book entitled ‘Idoits guide to relationships’ or something like that. but it definitely contains the word idiots guide to and definitely had to do with relationships. it is advised that one should get to know the person they like/ admire for at least 3 months before moving on further up the relationship ladder. and how many of you agree love at first sight is magic hand up. seems magical isnt it. we see it all times in drama series, or movies. seems like heaven sent. such bliss. but really, love at first sight? maybe there is such a thing, i do not know. but i have to agree with the book that ‘love at first sight’ is no magic because it may have more to do with ‘lust at first sight’. for how can u love someone u do not know? argue as much as u will that that is why its magical, look deep inside your own heart and tell me truth that it has nothing to do with they way they dress/ present themselves at first sight? would u have ‘love at first sight’ with a scuffy looking person? i’ve never heard one before, so if you have, pls enlighten me. i always seek new understanding.

u know what is truly magical? its when u love a friend. why i think its magical? because that persons looks may only have little to do with why u love them. i trule believe that if u love a friend, its because u have known them for a long time and its more of their personality that attracted you and not so much of how cool or beautiful or what naught. Its only natural to get attracted to attractive ppl. after all, they are already labeled ‘attractive’ is it not? well, we are attracted to attractive ppl because of our animal instinct. attractive ppl = good genes. and we naturally want to find someone of good genes to procreate with. well, i already mentioned its animal instinct. Humans have animal instinct, but we are also blessed in the power to think. and this power enable us to shut off the animal instinct and do what we think is right or suitable.

take saving another’s life for instance. ur animal instinct tells you the rule of ’survival of the fittest’. when faced with danger, animal instinct tells you to run a way. take the safest route. SURVIVE. but yet, we hear so many stories of ppl risking their own lives of someone elses. that is because we are able to shut our animal instinct and act on what we think should be done, and that is to save someone elses life.

that is all i wish to share about my personal opinion of what i think about this concept in which most of us accepted — love. i may never truly understand why or how or what it will do to the human brain and state of mind, but i have seen my share of it to be wise enough to not take that concept at face value. love, like many things in life, can be confused with other feelings (or emotion donno lar) that have a much darker history like obsession, jealousy, lust, etc.

one last note though, if you are one of the many that has ’special’ feelings for someone, if you never tell, that person will never know. that is what i think. how you are going to tell it, no one can ever give u that answer, go with what you think u are comfortable with is my believe. but then again, that is my opinion. you have ur own. only you can be your own guide in this game. Don keep it to urself, u’ll get drowned in it, or emotionally sensitive ppl will at least. u will have the consequences to deal with, so deal with it. get an answer. if all goes well, then good for you. if your heart is broken, that is when u can finally move on to the next fish in sea! (no im not heartless, i know its painful, but once u know there is no hope, u can finally give up)